Two ways to approach girls

How to approach a girl ? Approaching a girl isn't only about what you say, but also about your body language, appearance, and vocal variation. All of which you must utilize correctly based off of your initial assessment while scoping the scene. Sounds advanced doesn't it? Don't worry, it's not, with my adult dating advice over time it becomes second nature. Here are a couple of examples to help you understand how exactly you should approach a girl.

Example 1:

Imagine your name is John. You live a rather isolated life and you haven't had much success with females. Generally in most environments you're passive and you find it hard to meet new people. You would like a steady relationship with a female who'll stay committed to you and only you. You enjoy jazz music so you decide to check out a local coffee shop frequented by jazz musicians. You order a drink and sit down at a table with a good view. You notice two girls standing up a distance away from the band observing and talking to each other while listening. One girl is more suiting to your physicality but you are still attracted to her. She's dressed in a humble manner and seems to be your average girl possessing no extreme qualities. She seems to match your criteria so you gather up the inspiration to approach her.

This is the average scenario for most guys. In this type of situation most males find it hard to find a way to start a conversation without looking embarrassed of inexperienced. The only thing that makes you look foolish or inexperienced is yourself! That is why it is VERY important to be confident about yourself. It is NOT a big deal.

Having read the adult dating advice guide, John understands there is nothing to be worried about. Casually he walks up next to the two girls and makes a comment about the band. It is safe to assume if they're at a jazz show then they must like it as well. Making a comment about the band will lay a foundation for a conversation. "Oh, great band!" would be a perfect remark. John makes sure that the girl can hear him, but not completely direct at her. Her first reaction is the most important. Her first expression is evenmore important. Make sure to look at her after your comment, depending on her personality, she might say something back, or she might not say anything at all...

Some girls are shy. If she doesn't like your presence you can usually tell instantly and you can casually walk it off. If she is a shy girl, you could notice it on her face. She might look away to see something else. But keep in mind her focus is on you. If you notice she seems shy, you could follow it up with another comment about the band. It's important to act casual but direct.

It wasn't so hard now was it? The more you do it, the easier it will come. Starting the conversation is 90% of the battle, continuing it is a piece of cake. It isn't rocket science, anyone can do it. It's just a matter of understanding there is no reason to be self conscious, and with the adult dating advice you should know you can do it.

Example 2:

Imagine your name is John. You live a rather isolated life and you haven't had much success with females. Generally in most environments you're passive and you find it hard to meet new people. (The twist from scenario 1) You desire a relationship with a girl who is open to sexual experimentation. We all have fetishes, and so does John! John has a fetish for bondage and dominative sex.

The problem is that he is intimidated by females who appear dominative and could potentially possess his same fetish. John goes to a club known for it's hard music, usually frequented by gothic males and females. Such an environment would yield greater success for his criteria, contrary to the idea if he were visit a library. In this environment it is harder to focus in on any one specific person. At clubs there are always others not participating in the actual event, and are usually found on the "sidelines" if you will. John gets a drink and scopes out any possible mates. It's important to clear your mind of the commotion and focus on the task at hand. So on the opposite end of the club you notice a female dressed rather revealing, alone with a drink peering into the crowd.

The problem here is that the music is much too loud to start a conversation. So what do you do? The obvious action would be to ask her if she wants to dance. You will be able to tell almost instantly if she is interested by her response. If she accepts, dance with her and try to keep communication flowing so you can reach your ultimate goal and establish a form of communication beyond that of the club. If you don't dance, you can attempt to yell over the music and offer her a drink where you can possibly be away from the music enough to create a conversation.

Remember the adult dating advice, this girl has never met you before, and as far as she knows, this is your personality. Females of this nature are attracted to mystery. Like I mentioned before, once you've stated the first line, or asked the first question, more than half the battle is over. From her response you will be able to deduce if there is a chance or not. Continue the conversation in the same manner and you will either succeed or fail.